Or in my case, not so polite rejection.
I have been known to unhesitatingly yell, ‘No way’, ‘ That’s butt ugly’ and the classic response of, ‘I hate that with every fibre of my being’.
Now, I’m not saying I have great taste or anything like that – I don’t have to say it, the evidence speaks for itself. But life is just that bit harder when trying to live with one for whom decorating means working out where the computer desk goes best. I am probably better off here than some couples, because for my dearest, home decoration is not something that he is ever concerned with. Ever. He generally leaves me to it. Which is just as well because I am incredibly fussy and compromise is not one of my strong points.
But occasionally over the years, a sudden fit of inspiration will overcome him, and he’ll throw forth a suggestion for something that would be really cool to do around the house. I know I’m meant to hear him out and consider his opinion, but often there are times when that is just not possible. Here’s a couple of examples I submit to you, of some of his past ideas…
Example 1 – Terracotta. This is just a hideous colour at the best of times, that is only acceptable on a pot and nowhere else. My other half thinks terracotta paint is neat. Walls painted this colour would be great. No they wouldn’t dear, they’d just be horrible.
Example 2 – Now I know he protests that he didn’t really mean it, but I honestly believe a part of him did. I’m talking about the time we were wandering around in London and he saw this in a shop window and exclaimed with enthusiasm how cool it would be to have on the wall. The wall in your own home!
That’s right folks, that is a wall mounted head of the Alien from the film of the same name. Now while I do have a taste for the quirky myself, I think I would spend the rest of my life having to explain it wasn’t my idea, and comforting small terrified children. Plus, it’s not what I’d call ‘Californian Bungalow’ style. Perhaps if I lived on a spaceship, I could see how this would work. Clearly this is a time when compromise doesn’t come into the equation.
Fortunately for me, his lack of interest in home decor means we rarely have disagreements over what I want to do to the place. But what do you do if you have a partner who does care and whose taste is appalling, or appalling to you at any rate?
I’m going to offer up to you a secret tip, that my partner has admitted he applies to me. You might find it useful, it is this…
When your partner suggests something that you actually don’t mind or even quite like, argue over it. Make out as if you totally don’t like it, then after some heated discussion you finally agree, graciously even, to let them have their way. Thanks to your great acting you have compromised, they believe you have let them have a win. Well done you. And here is the clever part, now that you have let them have their way, you are now free to say ‘No’ to the suggestions you really don’t like, and you can point back to this time when you were the one to compromise.
It’s a kind of genius solution really. And yes, my other half is rather cheeky isn’t he!