Damn you online shopping. You bring me such joy and such shame, all at once.
You know what I’m talking about. The rush of happiness when you purchase something online that you have been wanting/needing (also when you purchase something you didn’t realise you needed/wanted until you saw it). However the shame quickly sets in when the credit card statement arrives. Aaaahhhh, why does adulting have to be so complicated!
Online shopping is such a haven for me when I am feeling like a lazy sloth that is also in the mood for retail therapy. I can’t be bothered dragging myself out of the house, but I feel like looking at the latest shoes or dresses for those times when I will be in the mood to leave the house. What can I say, I’ve always been organised. Look, for those that are short on time and are searching for something they haven’t found in a store, I think online shopping is amazing. Once you find the rhythm with sizing and delivery timing from your favourite sites, it’s convenient, returns are easy (in most cases) and you can shop at any time that suits you. It really only becomes a problem when you go down the rabbit warren of hopping from one site to the next. Initially you’re just looking for some shoes, then you somehow get distracted with sunglasses, then that pretty Summer dress you will of course need, onto that new plant holder because you’ve been meaning to buy some new plants, to the beautiful cushions – my current cushions really are getting dated, to a new bag, I mean I really am needing an update to my current style. Before you know it, you have 56 tabs open and your email account is beeping like crazy as confirmation of your purchases. Then the dreaded credit card statement arrives. Oh the shame. How did I spend so much? Surely there’s a mistake? Oh no, yep, there they are, all my purchases accounted for. That’s it, I’m not shopping anymore.
Somehow, amongst the part time job that is managing my shopping addiction, I have also assumed the responsibility of managing the household finances. How did we decide that I was the best equipped out of the two of us to manage our finances? After so many years of hard work, dedication and perseverance towards theses tasks, I have honed my skills to become a world class juggler, worthy to be the headline act for “Cirque du Soleil – The miracle of managing a shopping addiction and household finances without drowning in debt”. The act involves a room full of screens showing all the bills due, credit card statements and account balances and I am seen skilfully juggling the money between accounts. The crowd gasps as I escape the credit limit exceeded messages, pay bills on time to receive the “pay by this date” discount and still manage to have money left over to enjoy some social activities. The encore of my performance is managing to save a little cash for the annual family holiday. That’s how it goes in my head anyway. I’m sure we would be wealthier if I were not in charge of the finances. We just wouldn’t look so good.
The reality is that online shopping is a great tool for those of us that have a busy life, but there is a fine line to addiction that needs to be managed. Possibly disconnecting your internet to avoid online shopping is not a bad idea, albeit a little extreme. This is where saving goals are key I believe. The best way to rein in the spending is to have a goal to save towards. My favourite goal is a holiday, where I can escape my online shopping and hit the pavement hard by doing retail damage in actual shops. What? You always need a holiday souvenir don’t you?